We’ve Created this Nightmare but We Can End It Too

Even the produce department had virtually nothing. I wound up buying a can of peas because it was literally one of the only vegetables available in the entire grocery store.

No one can hurt you as badly as you can. I learned this lesson in a very brutal way as I worked through my divorce in 2016. Yes, the girl I had dedicated myself to loving and spending my life with had done some horrible, cruel things (please don’t misconstrue this as me saying I had no responsibility for the failure of the relationship – I certainly did). But I’m the one who tortured myself over them. I’m the one who took much longer than necessary to let it all go. And in the end, the vast majority of the pain I experienced wound up being self-inflicted. Now I want to apply this concept to the situation we find ourselves in today.

The most dangerous virus on earth is the mainstream media and the product it creates. This collective group of people profits from reporting on almost exclusively the worst elements of humanity. And it is getting worse. What had been an hour of reading the news with little or no personal opinion being featured has turned into hundreds of channels of absurdly biased, round the clock “analysis,” which actually amounts to little more than propaganda in most cases. What had been a clickbait headline has turned into a rage baiting headline that fuels hatred of fellow human beings.

And now this horrifying phenomenon has devastated the entire world economy over a virus that, by all accounts, amounts to a moderately worse strain of the common cold. It’s not just the trillions of dollars in equity that has been vaporized in markets all over the world. People in everyday America have lost desperately needed income (way too many people live paycheck to paycheck even in the richest country in the history of the world, but that is another topic for another day) because the hysteria has demolished the businesses that had provided them. Some of these job losses will become permanent. And it’s also the fear and mob mentality that has resulted in some of our stupidest people buying up almost all the household supplies and even food so there is barely any left for the rest of us to buy.

If this goes much further, we’re going to see riots, looting, and other behavior that has no place in a civilized society. Already there have been reports of physical fights over toilet paper. Yes, there are actually people in this world who will get into a fight over fucking toilet paper. I would love to blame the media for all of this, and undoubtedly that would be at least partially correct. But at the end of the day, the media only exists in its current form because we let it. MSNBC, CNN, Fox News, and the rest of the horde of ENTERTAINMENT news channels (and websites) are only doing what they are because it is profitable. And it is only profitable because people watch.

Under normal circumstances, this is a big enough problem. The media encourages us to hate people who think differently and yell them down rather than to try to understand and work together. It amplifies everything that is evil in us as humans. If someone is doing something genuinely good like feeding starving children, it may get a passing mention, but it is very unlikely that anyone will remember this person’s name in a week. But if someone shoots up a school full of kids, it will be shouted from the rooftops for months until none of us can ever forget his name. This doesn’t just make it very easy to believe that “the world’s going to hell in a handbasket!” It also creates a feedback loop of negative behavior. Lots of other troubled kids watch this all happen and it isn’t lost on them that suddenly the whole world is paying attention to someone who had previously been a bullied, ignored kid a lot like them. I would bet my life that the media has literally caused school shootings that otherwise would not have happened.

In the case of recent events, the media has created a panic where none existed before, nor would one have been justified. Enough people watched enough of this nonsense on tv, decided they had to prepare for Armageddon, and went out and did just that. I’ve heard reports of people cleaning out their bank accounts to go supply shopping. This is nothing short of hysteria. And guess who then gets to report on it, profit from it, and create even more of it? The same group of people that started it to begin with. Make no mistake; despite the grim faces on the tv, this situation is an absolute dream for the media. But for the rest of us, of course, it’s a nightmare.

This reminds me of a Simpsons episode from years ago when the show was worth watching. It was smart back then. This particular episode was a Halloween themed nightmare scenario. A bunch of giant advertising creatures had come to life and were terrorizing people. Lisa visited the ad agency that created some of them and was advised that just like any other advertising, these creatures would go away if people simply stopped paying attention to them. With Paul Anka’s help, she came up with a little jingle called “Just Don’t Look” and sure enough, as soon as people stopped paying attention, the monsters all collapsed and the town was saved.

If we want to stop our real life media monster, this is exactly what we have to do. Stop paying attention. For the love of God, turn off the fucking tv. Get off of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and all the other methods you are using to squander the precious time you have on this earth being addicted to misery. Go back to living a productive, healthy life. The summarizing message of the coronavirus should be “wash your hands, eat healthy food, exercise, get enough sleep, stay home if you’re sick, and otherwise go about your business.” These are all common sense practices that should be followed regardless of the circumstances. If we stop feeding the disease that is the current state of the media, it will have to die – or at least change into something less destructive.

I’m going to close this post with a plea for sanity. Please, let’s stop hording years’ worth of supplies and let some other people buy what they need in order to get through the next week or two. Please, let’s be calm and rational. And most importantly, please, PLEASE, let’s stop allowing the mainstream media to turn us into little more than angry, hateful, idiotic puppets. We are better than this.

Possibly the Most Unattractive Statement I’ve Ever Heard

Just a phenomenally timed photo! – Image courtesy of Jean-Marc Buytaert

No matter what your goals are with the opposite sex, you will probably have to play the numbers game. And since my divorce a few years ago, I’ve done just that. Not long ago, I met a woman who seemed pretty worthwhile at first. She was attractive and clearly intelligent. But my assessment changed in an instantaneous and permanent manner when she said something that absolutely appalled me. “I wouldn’t want to be with someone like you because you clearly live a healthy lifestyle and I don’t want to feel pressured to live that way too.”

One issue with dating women in their early to mid twenties is that you can’t necessarily assess their lifestyle very easily. Sure, some of them are already significantly overweight at that age and others are showing signs of aging prematurely, both of which are indicative of consistently poor choices in one or more areas. But many of them still look great thanks to nothing but a combination of age and genetics. And that was clearly the case here. She went on to describe her party girl lifestyle, which sounded like it mostly involved staying out drinking at bars, clubs, etc until the wee hours of the morning, rather proudly. This was clearly a woman who is well on her way to hitting the wall head first and at full speed.

But it wasn’t even the fact that she’s squandering every resource she has – her health, her money, and the time her very life is made up of – that shocked me. I see women her age still living that way all the time. Consequently, the reason I tend to date women that age, as opposed to younger than that, is because the smarter ones tend to be starting to realize that they aren’t going to be young forever and adjusting their choices accordingly. The reason I usually avoid women thirty and above is that many of the ones who are single at that age have never made those all important adjustments, but now want kids regardless – with whoever is foolish or desperate enough to attach himself to that mess for a couple of decades at a minimum.

Anyway, don’t get me wrong. I’ve suspected plenty of women of harboring this “I don’t want to be with someone who looks like he might have even modest expectations” mentality. I’ve just never met one who was actually willing to admit it before. She apparently wants to date a man with no more drive or self discipline than she has. And the crazy part is that she went on to talk forlornly about being single as the minutes, which started to seem like hours, passed. Of course she is single! What kind of man would be attracted enough to someone with an attitude like that to have anything beyond casual sex with her? What are the odds that she herself would find a man like that attractive? It’s amazing how self destructive people can be. But in this case, she has an almost unbelievable combination of awareness of what she’s doing to herself and insistence on continuing to do it.

The lesson here, of course, is to live exactly the opposite way this woman is. Make the right choices, not the easiest ones. Surround yourself with people who motivate you to be better in every area of your life. Avoid people who are going to drag you down to their level with their mere presence. I’m sure you have all heard the quote about being the average of the five people you spend the most time with. While I don’t think it’s quite that simple, I’m a big believer in the basic concept. Clearly the woman I met was, too. She just had a very perplexing vision for what she wanted her “average” to be. More power to her, I guess. But I strongly recommend you choose the best life you can for yourself. Why would anyone want a crappy one?